That’s probably an odd thing to think about, right? While it’s your funeral, you won’t be there, so what does it matter? Although thoughts of funerals should not be relegated to our older clients, we find that many of our older clients want to plan their funerals, or at least give their loved ones some thoughts on what they would like to have for their funerals.
This topic, in fact, reminds me of a client who died a few years ago. He asked that I tell no one of his death or the location of his final resting place. I assured him that I would not tell anyone nor could I under my ethics rules. He also told me that he made a list of individuals who he wanted notified of his death and a list of individuals who were not to be called. He had no interest in a funeral, but had paid for his burial plot and related matters.
This gentleman’s story is not unique in that he had certain wishes that mattered to him. He took the time to write those down so that his personal representative could carry them out.
I have come to realize that planning for a funeral is really another example of a loving gift for your family. Most of us do not want to think about all of the details that go into a funeral – the service, music, flowers, casket, burial or cremation, etc. If you provide your wishes, your family won’t struggle to figure out what to do. And they won’t wonder if they “did it right” after the fact. Going a step further, you can also prepay for some or all of your funeral. This makes sense for some of our clients, especially those who have no loved ones living nearby.
This whole topic caused me to think that I should offer my clients a short workbook/guide on funerals. I have done that, and if you’d like a funeral guide, please give me a call. I would love to share our guide!